Take a page out of Dorothea's book for your next shindig.
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Take a page out of Dorothea's book for your next shindig.
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According to Reese, one of the most important decisions you’ll make about any party is deciding who to invite. “I always have to fight the temptation to re-invite the same gang who made for the last fun party,” she writes. “But you can’t have the same party twice.”
Dorothea’s Tip: Invite people of different ages and backgrounds to make conversation more interesting.

It’s true that everyone is incredibly busy, and especially so around the holiday season. But in order to guarantee that things run smoothly, communication is key—both from the host and the guest. When you do receive an invite to a party, RSVP as soon as possible. “A quick ‘no’ is better than a long ‘maybe’,” says Reese.
Dorothea’s Tip: Send invites or save-the-dates at least two weeks in advance.

There are a lot of tips for hosting success, but sometimes the most basic ones are the best. There never seems to be enough time on the day that you’re hosting a party, so planning is your best friend. It’s also the number one way to make an impact. “In my experience, it’s particularly nice to prepare a special meal in honor of someone,” says Reese. “Such as gumbo for a person from New Orleans or catfish for a friend from South Carolina.”
Dorothea’s Tip: Do as much in advance as possible, including setting the table and preparing the food.

Unless you’re having a themed dinner, simple is best when it comes to the table decor. You don’t want anything to detract from the beautiful food and drinks you have provided! Always keep some vases handy in case guests bring you fresh flowers.
Dorothea’s Tip: Decorate with fresh flowers and unscented candles.

A well-stocked bar cart is a host’s best friend. Having a variety of spirits, liqueurs and other options keeps the conversation and energy flowing. And it’s always important to make an effort for anyone who doesn’t drink alcohol. “I usually have a nonalcoholic option like club soda with fresh-squeezed juice and a fun garnish,” says Reese. “It’s more cheerful than a glass of water or a can of Coke.”
Dorothea’s Tip: Have a fully stocked bar, as well as lots of ice and sweet tea, and both red and white wine for cocktail hour and dinner.

So when do you serve dinner? It’s hard to break up conversations when they’re flowing so well, but you don’t want to keep everyone there all night. Reese has an actual dinner bell that she rings to let people know when the meal’s started!
Dorothea’s Tip: Serve dinner about one hour after the start time on the invitation.

A good playlist is like an additional guest at a party. Only it’s the best kind of guest—one who makes you feel smart, funny and alive. There’s nothing better than sitting around chatting while an incredible song plays in the background. It’s one of those movie moments in real life!
Dorothea’s Tip: Put on Louis Prima or Ella Fitzgerald and let the party begin!